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Thirty conversations were analyzed with qualitative methods. Three overall themes of spousal care were identified: engaging with compassion; patiently reaching out; and trusting in the existence of deep attachment. In addition, 10 communication patterns were identified. Communication patterns included "news of the day," which provided caregivers and spouses normalcy and serenity by talking about the mundane activities of daily life; "sharing memories," whereby caregivers attempted to reminisce with their spouses about memories of people and past events; "storytelling," as caregivers persevered in telling a detailed story although the conversation seemed like a monologue with no verbal participation from the spouses; and "delighting in the unexpected," as caregivers were overjoyed when their spouses contributed more to the conversation than expected. The researchers also observed that caregivers accepted a spouse's version of the story, valuing the relationship more than being right and therefore refrained from interrupting or interjecting.